Struggling Toward Hope Life After the Death of a Spouse

When Bob Terry’s wife, Eleanor, died in 1998 following a car wreck in South Africa, he began a journey with grief he never expected and certainly never wanted.

His new book, “Struggling Toward Hope: Life After the Death of a Spouse,” shares not only the personal lessons he learned along that journey, but also practical tips for survivors as they learn to live after a loved one dies.

Terry’s book tells his story and provides meaningful suggestions for grieving spouses and others who desire to help someone after the death of a loved one. 

He also examines the practical changes that happen following a death, including situations those on the outside of the situation probably never think about — questions about how and when to clean out your loved one’s closet, whether it’s OK to redecorate and when to explore new relationships.

“Struggling Toward Hope: Life After the Death of a Spouse,” is published by Soncoast Publishing in Hartselle, Alabama, and is available in e-book and print from most major booksellers.

  • From a retired pastor

    “Dr. Terry, in describing his own grief, has provided a window into the grief process that is helpful both to the grieving and to the people walking with them through the process. While no two people experience grief in the same way, Dr. Terry provides insight through his own story of the basics of grief as he describes the emotions that he felt, his thoughts and the long process of finding hope again.” 

    Dr. Gary Fenton
    Former pastor
    Dawson Memorial Baptist Church, Birmingham
  • From a widow

    “I wish I had this book when my husband died.”

    Betty Stonecypher
    widow and retiree from Birmingham, Ala.
  • From a grief expert

    “This book is truly a guidebook on how to cope with traumatic grief. Bob shares the most intimate details of his loss experience, but he also goes on to address the tools any grieving widow can use to get through the journey moving forward without a spouse.”

    Lisa Harrison
    Administrative Director
    Community Grief Support in Birmingham, Ala.
  • From a pastor, author and professor

    “Every pastor needs to read this book to have a better understanding of the depth of sorrow that comes with losing a loved one. … This book would be an excellent resource book for grief support groups.” 

    Art Christmas